In response to my How To Say You’re Sorry” blog entry–thanks to all for reading it!–I received various Retweets (one from Todd Whitaker, author of Shifting the Monkey)  and remarks, as well as these two emailed comments:

It’s important to keep it simple and to take full responsibility.  We don’t want to say something in an apology that will exacerbate the original offense.  We also need to understand that, though it is the words people respond to, there may be something deeper—our attitudes, other things we have said or done, and, especially, the prior experiences of the person we’ve offended.

If we keep it to: “I was wrong, would you please forgive me?” then we give the offended party the opportunity to be in the driver’s seat.  Then we need to keep a careful watch on our tongues in the future.  James 4: 1- 12.

BTW I made the deliberate choice not to go into administration as well when I decided to go for library media specialist certification.  There are many reasons why I don’t want to be a principal, but the primary one is that it’s a truly thankless job for most and they daily have to do things that I don’t want to deal with.

Have a blessed Christmas!

and

Miguel,
Thank you for bringing this subject up. That’s why your are loved and admired by so many people. You just bold “step into it” and then you process it in your mind for us in print. Thank you!
Merry Christmas

Thanks to these two commenters for sharing their feedback! BTW, while looking for a nice summary of Shifting the Monkey to link above, I stumbled across these quotes. Great stuff…it reminds me that you can make change in 6 months if you’re willing to put the time and effort.

  • Change does not take a long time! People love to say that it takes a long time because they don’t want to work hard. For example, have you ever had an out of control class with a marginal teacher (could be a substitute, maternity leave replacement, or even a tenured teacher)? You take another, stronger teacher and put them in that class, and next thing you know it’s a different class? Change doesn’t take a long time, unless you are average
  • Great people do not see the “before.” Continuing that example from above. The great teacher that comes in, and turns things around does not need to know what happened before. They take ownership of the class, and move forward 


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